Why It's Better to Set a Goal and Get On With It Quietly
As humans we want to constantly feel satisfied. We want to achieve every time we do something. Which helps set us up for ‘failure thinking’.
Setting a goal is initially exciting.
Churning tummy exciting at what is possible.
Then we start day 1 and tell the world. We get hi-fives, congratulations and he’ll yeahs from far and wide.
Day 2 we do it again but already our cheer squad is off doing something else and cheering someone else on (or you’ve actually inspired them and they are off taking action towards their goals)
Day 3 is usually only your family saying well done and after that the only noise you hear is when your sweat drips on the floor!!
This is your out.
This is when you say ‘I’m done, fk it, what’s the point’ and you return to your old ways and give up on the whole idea.
You instantly adopt ‘failure thinking’ and the hope of you ever trying it again is 1000 times less.
So how do you prepare yourself for the journey of ‘self-cheer squad’ and achieve your goal?
Share your goal with just 1 or 2 trusted people who understand how important the goal is for you and who can give you a cheer squad hi-five or bum slap to celebrate and a ‘get your big girl panties on and get it done’ during the tough times.
Set your schedule and commit to it. It’s a date with your future self so take your time investment seriously. There should only be 1 or 2 people important enough in your world that this appointment would be moved for (and it’s not your BF/husband – you are not looking for an ‘excuse’ ticket)
Quietly record your actions, what you’re noticing on the journey (emotions/energy/realizations/challenges/achievements). Don’t look back each day over it all as this only adds to ‘comparitise’ and shitting on yourself. Remember some goals are a culmination of small incremental daily steps compounded over time to achieve resists.
Set some check points along the way (either number of times you took action/number of weeks/number of km achieved/ number of study sessions/increase in strength) and set alarms or checklists on your phone or record in a book. Once you’ve hit a checkpoint, celebrate or reward yourself – just a little bit, enough to feel great and then get back in with the job.
NAIL THAT GOAL
With these steps it’s head down bum up, but the energy and emotion you save by not needing 40,000 fan squad and channel that into focusing on what needs to get done, you will achieve your goals quicker than you realise. You’ve got this!
(PS just quietly my app told me I have completed 25% of my 0-10km training program. BOOM!)